Navigating the Waves of Change

"Nothing will change if you don't change it," says Dr. Joe Dispenza.

In one of his interviews, when asked whether some situations in our lives, problems, and traumas cannot be resolved or permanently removed, he replied that he has worked with people who have gone through incredible tragedies in life. Despite this, they managed to be happy again with themselves, in relationships, overcome anxieties, free themselves from the demons of the past, and even recover from severe illnesses.

We should never impose a limit on the possibilities of change. Those who learn and make changes are able to change not just one but many things in their lives! As human beings, we can change the rhythm of our hearts, alter the waves in our brains, and even the expression of our genes- says Dr. Dispenza.

Over the years, through observing both myself and those closest to me, I see how we suffer from clinging to the old, the known, the unchanging, and often imposed patterns. Why? Because it’s more convenient and easier, because we don’t know any other way... because that’s how we were taught!

But is that really the case? I think the simplest truth is that we don’t want change because we fear it.

What if we knew that change would only bring better things? What if the worst thing that happened to us was the best thing that could happen in our future? The problem is that the likelihood of seeing the truth in reality is zero. We perceive less than one percent of reality, and our brain loses a lot of data in such situations, claims Dr. Joe.

Wouldn’t it be better to abandon everything and everyone that poisons us from within, that causes us to suffer and bleed invisibly? We suffer because we want things to be permanent, under our constant control, and exactly as we want them to be.

And although that’s not the case, and never will be, and despite being inclined to prefer what is familiar, the truth is that everything in our lives changes. Nothing is permanent! And nothing, except for controlling our emotions and self-development, is under our control. It’s so hard for us to accept this.

Changes are difficult. And for us mothers, they come with double the intensity.

Being a mother is a challenge for a woman and involves many changes, from physical to emotional and spiritual. Coping with the stress of change and protecting our children from that stress is exhausting. Especially when we are afraid, when we are abandoned, when people we relied on for our existence leave us, when we are forced to move, or for any reason our finances change.

Why are changes so difficult? Why are we so afraid of them? Why is it so hard for us to step out of our comfort zone?

It's because we rely on subconscious habits formed in the past, often imposed on us, simply to ensure our safety in our environments and systems!

Yet, evolutionarily, we are driven to grow, change, and transition, because impermanence is a natural part of our life experience!

Our needs change over time, not within hours. We must go through a stage of practice, which involves actually creating new neural networks in our brain so that our body can become familiar with everything we are struggling with. Dr. Joe Dispenza says that after just 7 days of introducing changes and new habits, our brain scan shows changes.

Instead of waiting for something to change on its own, start believing in your ability to create your own life, because no one else will live it for you!

You are the only person who can go to the gym, talk to your partner, or start your own business. You are the only person who knows how to change your life.

Small changes are the foundation of life transformation, but true fulfillment comes from continuous personal growth. Practice your new healthy habits, practice them every day – no matter what. Take risks if you want to learn how to change your life. You can't stay in your comfort zone. You must take risks until you feel comfortable with them – and then take more. The more you try, the easier it will be for you to rewrite your story and change your life. Imagine what would happen if each of us committed to being the best we can be in every aspect of our lives: in relationships, family, career, and more. How would the world change if everyone started with themselves, took responsibility for creating their own life, instead of fearing failure and the judgment of others?

There’s something incredibly empowering about believing in yourself. You need to believe in possibilities to believe in yourself!

Make a decision and act on it, then keep moving forward. When you make a decision, take some form of action that will lead you in the direction you want to go. The smallest changes can lead to significant results if we stick to them.

So don’t be afraid to take the first step. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it!

Growth is a journey, and once you start this journey, you’ll never want to stop. I promise!